Yesterday I went to visit my best friend Danielle. It was awesome when you see a good friend you haven't seen in far too long. The coolest thing about us is that a million years could go by but when we actually chill it's like no time has gone by. We call ourselves the Manielle. We tried on horrific dresses in the mall, tried all the fragances in the bath and body works, ate such yummy hummus & eggplant salad, took some photos, gossiped til our faces were blue, and made those lil butterflies I know how to do.
In our gossip sessions tho there was a real suprise. I thought it was just me that was kinda stuck in the middle of a friend split, mine of which is goin on with my friends up home. She is stuck in one too. In my friend split, I was feelling so left out and alone because the group I used to hang out with ALL the time doesn't exist anymore really. I thought it was just the Mess doing it to me but no. It was a "Friend Split". Well then listening to Danielle begin to tell me about how messed up and apart our ole group of friends from college is I was completely shocked. The game night doesn't happen, that bbq plan falls through, the game of poker is never finished, the movie isn't watched, and all those plans just fade away. But knowing that I'm not the only one going through this void of loneliness, made me feel a lil better.
I think I was hoping to go back to my old group of friends where me and Danielle were like "the girls" and try to find a place among them. That's not going to happen. Where she is there is this weird odd choosing of sides and splitting of friendships too. It sucks, plain & simple. Sigh.
But me and Danielle's friendship is still going strong. We're Fiesty & Ready for life's next punches.
So I right now I will hold on to the friends I do have and treasure them dearly.
Maybe it's the transistion from summer to fall that's got people a lil crazy and stressed? Or perhaps that saying, "Things eventually work out or iron themselves out" is true. It's just not the best outcome sometimes. Well you gotta take off the rose-colored glasses one day. And I'm finally taking off mine and NOT put them back on.
This weekend I'm going to try have some relaxing fun and work some things out. Maybe find a new group of friends...maybe try to make my own group...or try to help save one.
One of the boys I work with told me that I deserve a fun weekend. I'm going to try...
5 comments:
i had a group of friends in high school that ended up "splitting." although that was more due to graduating, moving to different colleges, losing touch, etc, blah blah and so on.
but when it comes to a friends-split, maybe you should look at how you define "friend." are they close to you? or are they people you just hang out with? sometimes it's not that you're losing friends, but that you're gaining understanding of who your real friends actually are. they're the ones that stick thru the lean-times.
just my two cents.
have a nifty weekend!
There is nothing like spending some time with a good friend you haven't seen for ages, isn't it?... living abroad is something that happens to me everytime I go back home! I hope your weekend is going to be lots of fun! ;O)
I too have had the friend split happen. I had a large group of friends back in highschool and I actually decided to split from them on my own. I ended up developing new friendships while staying close to only a few people. I'm much happier that I broke away from the group because I realized that they had become people I just didn't click with anymore. Sometimes people just grow apart and there's not a whole lot you can do about it.
When I was young I had a best friend that I hung around with ALL the time. It was great. When I was twelve my parents divorced, they sold the house and we had to move.
By the time this happened I realized my friendship with him was changing; I can't remember exactly what the circumstances were but he was changing and I didn't have the desire to spend time with him anymore.
Years later I saw him and I knew I had made the right decision as it was apparent he had fallen in with a bad crowd.
Check this out:
A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is, you
will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically,emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Author Unknown
Throughout the course of our lives people will come and go with no apparent reason as to why we've met them, or why they've left. What I've found is that in time these reasons usually become apparent to us. Sometimes it may take years to understand, but there's a lesson in pretty much everything that happens to us in life.
Barry
Cute pics! What a little hottie:) sadly I've lost contact with way too many friends. :( xoxo
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