The past week has just been a blur really with all the health issues so I think its about time for some cleaning. I should just admit that my bedroom will never be clean any of the 365 days of the year...sometimes 366. It might be tidy for an hour or so but it never lasts. That's cool, I've come to terms with my "hoarding" tendencies. When I mean cleaning I mean getting rid of the junk that is my head. As I've said before I lack closure in some of my past relationships...well I'm going to say goodbye to them here so it's at least said somewhere.
Looking back I realized I've only dated one guy who wasn't a musician. I've heard of patterns but this is ridiculous. I think of myself as the Movie girl...the Movie girl + the Music guy is like oil & water. They will mix for a while...but eventually they will separate. Huh...yeah that's pretty much sums it up. Well its time for goodbyes. I'm done with musicians. Those boys have sang their songs & moved on...now its time for me to do the same.
#1: Chris: 2003': I'm not sorry I helped you all those times because you had no else to see how sick you became & sit with your mother & your the only one I'm really officially over cuz you dumped me face to face. For that thank you, but I will never be able to listen to bongo drums again without cringing. Oh yeah & I know you hid them in your microwave whenever I came to your dorm room. Bad hiding spot dude.
#2: Drummer Boy: 07' That night we met you were a different person then every other day I spent with you. You were a great kisser but you left, then tried to come back. You have confused the hell out of me with your sudden return after 2 years. But even after 2 years your still the same. I can't sit in silence in a car just listening to music. I like to talk, I like to switch things up, I like to laugh, I like different music...and your just too much like a light bulb that burnt itself out. Please don't call me again.
#3: Spanish Boy w/ the Gray Eyes 09': Bad nickname for him but it fits. Was as fast to start as quick to end. Your excuses were ridicolous. The fact that I had to tell you, "I don't know if your going to tell me your going to save a cat from a tree next" is sad. When you called me the wrong name at a very bad time I almost wished I knew what band you sang for so I could go to the concert and scream the wrong band name up at ya. You deserve it you creep.
#4: The Gone New Guy: 10' I needed you. I needed you more than you'll ever know. That night when you kissed me after all the chaos of the rain was perfect. When Tom Petty's "Refugee" played on the list you made me make on your computer I thought I was done running. But when I found out you returned to your bad habits & the nice guy act was a mask...I just can't stay. You can yell & be a prick to me all you want but I'm done. You were a waste of a perfectly good black garter belt.
Well those 4 musicians are soo done. I mentioned the other day that my mind has been tuning like a radio station through my memories to find the good ones. I found the good ones...those 4 above are not in any of those. I can't erase the memories but I can let it go. One step at a time. There it goes...like music notes in the wind....
You would be here with me...." - Evanescence, "Call me when your sober"
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cool. a new beginning. and i have been struggling with mine as it is :P. how will you find a movie man now?
Good for you to put the past behind you, Love! Here is to a better future and something NEW! :):)
xoxox
Rachel
Great post! If something doesn't work then stop doing it! I have to say when you meet the right person you will forget about this and the ones that broke your heart because they simply won't matter xxx
Hello new reader here. *waves*
I don't know if I have a pattern although someone did point out to me once that I seem to go for men with big noses. I wish that corresponded with other parts of their anatomy, but sadly not.
Spanish boy with the grey eyes? Not good. Not good at all. Dumbass.
That's great that you're moving on, I sure hope the next guy you meet treats you like a princess! ;)
Melanie! I just saw the post about the cyst! SO glad things are alright!! *hugs*
haha! Yeah I dated 2 music guys before and nooo I will never do that again either! I love the post! I hope the next guy you date will treate you very well because you totally deserve it!
Yay! There was a point in my life where I actually decided no more good-for-nothing, selfish bad boys. The next guy I met turned into my husband.
He's not a syurpy sweet good guy, but he's always treated me with respect and that was what I had finally realized I deserved. Turning over a new leaf will be great for you!
Cheers to new beginning dear!
Must also say That I'm glad to hear the good news abt your health!
Count all your blessingsss...
xo
well that is quite a pattern, but I'm glad you discovered it and can move on. you deserve a nice guy who treats you well, and even though I hope you don't get dumped again, if I guy does dump you he needs to do it nobely, face to face.
Aw, nice post. As others have said, glad you spotted the pattern and are going on. You do deserve an awesome guy!
We are SO in the same boat. I have ALWAYS dated musicians due in large part to the fact that I work with them; but I came to the conclusion last year that I am done with them. The dreams of having a cute boy serenade you are totally not fulfilled by musicians. Rather, all they want is for you to stand in the crowd like a groupie and hang on their every word. Been there, done that, goodbye. I adore you for washing your hands of them for good! :)
I hope that was as therapeutic for you as it seemed from where I was reading! I've never dated a musician, so I can't totally relate, but it seems like you're making a smart, well thought out decision...I hope it works out great for you. I can certainly see how that type of person might be a bit too wrapped up in themselves, at any rate...I hope everything stays 'clean' for you for a long time.
...Just one other thing...he hid WHAT in the microwave? hahaha!
Nice! It always feels so good when you can let go and start over :)
Tights Lover: Yeahh he used to play the bongo drums at like 4am in the morning so I told him to stop or I'll take them. Ever since that day he hid them in the microwave. lol =P
over and out and onward and upward! MARCH! a hahhaha! i mean that all in a good way! ;)
Love this. It's so good to officially say goodbye to these guys from the past. I think it definitely helps with the closure.
Just saw the post about the fibroid too. So glad that it's a fibroid and benign, but sorry for the tough choice you're facing. Hopefully getting rid of some of this relationship clutter in your head helps make everything else clearer. It totally works for me.
Way to go girl! Just don't back down. You are young and special and deserve the very best ... don't ever doubt or forget that. I was 27 before I met Barry and it was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Mr. Right is worth the wait.
good for u, mel! i'm proud of ya! thank u for the inspiration, too:) can't wait to see the next chapter! i think there is a wonderful guy out there for u:)
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Oh-oh! Last night I dreamt I was a drummer in a band. Can I still hang out with you?
xo
First, just have to say how relieved I am that you are okay. I'm sorry you have to deal with this health issue, but I'm glad it didn't turn out to be something worse.
And I'm glad you're going to venture out and find guys who aren't musicians. I have a few friends who dated out of their "realm" and now they're all engaged (there are three of them). It's amazing, actually. Love is always found in the most unexpected places and with someone you never would have guessed. That's the brilliance of it.
Good luck, sweetie! I can't wait to hear about more of your adventures, and hopefully this time you will have a happy ending. ;)
I think the best way to start moving on is to recognize patterns! best of luck in the crazy world of dating . . .
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