I have positively NO idea how to fall into a romantic comedy. That's me up there in the pic trying on a new dress. I did go to my Williams Sonoma demo today but I will post about that tomorrow. I have much more pressing matters to discuss tonight.
Well my last 2 postsd towards the end of the week was me fretting over the "date" with the lil Drummer Boy. Now, Im fit to be tied. From my Saturday, instead of knowing what Drummer Boy wanted I instead got a pretty fucked up game of ridicolousness. I was waiting for the call on Saturday when I heard my text message ringtone. It's the Drummer Boy. BUT the text read this:
I was beyond upset because seriously what the hell? He had called me on Wednesday to plan this out. I gave up on him in that moment & wrote back,
I was aggravated & pissed off because the last thing I needed was this slap in the face. BUT then i get a call from this Drummer boy about 10 minutes later. I didn't pick up. He called again, so I picked up. He then told me,
So we were back on. Whew, I thought. I told him to call me when he finished his work & we'd figure out where we were going to for drinks & dinner. Then the nerves struck. I got dressed in my lil Nine West boots, straightened my hair, put on sexy perfume, changed into the nice lingerie just in case, plucked my eyebrows, put on my make-up, earrings & cleaned my car. I was still a lil pissed because of the almost being stood up, however I really didn't expect this Next call to happen. It started out with him saying:
He canceled. He did say that he did want to see me, but seriously (I don't swear much on my blog but I have to), What the fuck??? I never thought he'd do this game with me when we're not even dating. He said he would call later in the week. I....I thought I was torn over him before Saturday but now I'm sooo twisted & torn about everything. Even if he just wanted to be my friend, what is this??? I guess he's one of those people who truly can't make up their minds. I have to make up my mind if I even want to see him after this crap. That what is, crap. Who does this to people??
I'm really starting to think people think I'm made of stone, that I can take anything & that I will never crack. Nope. I'm cracking. The doll is falling to the floor. I have alot of thinking to do & if he thinks I'm stupid enough to wait around for the next call, well Drummer boy I got some news for you....
I wish I knew how to fall into a romantic comedy. The cat always lands on it's feet in them....What's that free online dating site?? Plenty of fish.com?? I think I'm going to make a profile tomorrow. Maybe...ugh...I'm at a loss what to do. A big loss. *wtf*
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:( I'm sorry... Hopefully he truly is sincere and will make it up to you later... Provided you feel like trying again...
That's messed up! I can't believe he would cancel! :(
Back in our dating days, my husband canceled on me at the last minute for weeks and weeks and years and years. For our second date I purchased an entirely new outfit and got a mani/pedi for the occasion. It was a Friday night. I vowed never to call him again. Somehow I married him. He doesn't cancel that much on me anymore. Hang in there!
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What an asshole. You both have been planning this get together for a while now. If it was his friend's birthday, he should have considered that MUCH earlier on. It seems he got cold feet about seeing you and simply decided to cancel, and then felt bad and got back on board, but then freaked out again. He did not consider your feelings AT ALL. He obviously doesn't give a shit about anyone but himself. This makes me sick. You are such a sweet, beautiful, and amazing girl and you do NOT deserve to be treated this way.
I am so sorry. :(
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I hate the way he treated you, it is shitty. Who does he think he is doing that!
You deserve better than him, he's not the only guy in the world. It's not you, he's got problems, something deeper than a date problem I think.
You feel better, you are good. This week you will probably be asked out by someone else who's a good person. Smile your best smile all week :)
Secretia
ohh, soo sad. here is the part where i should probably be sympathizing with you. feel sorry, and sad about your turbulent relationship status. actually no. you want to have a relationship with this drummer guy. and he is an infantile moron (apparently obvious) and 3 years old.
In fact 3 year old kids have more common sense and are more responsible these days . but then we are talking about 3 year olds right??
I think you are tying too much down onto this one individual. and you might have a fun time with him.
What struck me right in the beginning of your post was. why didn't you express that you were pissed, infuriated, annoyed ? let him know that when you replied to his message? and now you are complaining..
Look girl here is my 2 cents on this. Put on your army boots give him a visit and kick him in the jewels. if that would get the point across. tell to his face. and if he still wants to play. that is upto you to entertain this behavior or not. cause actually you are doing it already.
and yes.. george carlin is a great inspiration. and i have him blaring in my headphones when i am running in the morning.. Goodmorning to you. and Bon Nuit to me. :)
And get those boots on!!!
Wow. I'm actually vicariously angry with you. Your frustration is totally understandable, and if I were you, I'd forget about him. That whole series of events he pulled was a boatload of ridiculous. The way I see it, life is short, and no one has enough time in the world for as many flakey people there are like drummer boy here. I say move on because you had the heart to actually give him the time of day after what he pulled the "never called again" -- what was it? A year ago? And he doesn't have the courtesy to give YOU the time of day? Bull----. But that's just my two cents. I wouldn't sweat it though Mel, he doesn't deserve that.
That sucks. Is it just me or does someone say "you are going to hate" me seem like they are looking for a way to ditch you and then make it seem like it happened b/c you hated them? Not trying to be pessimistic...I just hate that line. Hope things improve and you find a NICE guy!
Absolute dick!!!! Please don't bother with him again- he is so not worth wasting your time on! You are so much better than him. xxxxxxxxx
I have a male friend who is exactly like this. It's beyond annoying. I'm going to agree with the others and say that you should just forget about him (but I know from experience that that's easier said than done).
That's ridiculous! You can definitely do better than someone who acts like that when you aren't even dating!
god why are guys so stupid?? I mean, everyone says that we women are very complicated but it seems to me, that we're the ones who cleary know what we want and fight for it.. I think this guy doesn't deserve you, every girl should be treated like a princess not like some earing you can simply take off... hum I'm with you, and totally pissed with that guy of yours !
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Ahhh no, that's a bad showing on his part!
In the words of Khloe Kardashian: "What a douchelord!". Sorry, I couldn't help myself. But seriously, WTF? Sorry that happened! I vote with susan - you are so much better than him!
Melanie, first things first...I love your dress. You are so gorgeous.
Second, it is a sign. Forget about drummer boy. I was secretly hoping that you will get a sign that he's not the one for you and there, we got the sign. Well, aside from the fact that I'm not a fan of that effing guy.
You know who I want for you?!? xoxo
I am so sorry Melanie!! {you look beautiful in your dress!!}
That was kind of a jerk move he pulled on you. I would never cancel on a girl just a few hours before we go out--of course--unless something really bad happens.
P.S. I don't know if this is ironic or what, but I have given you a Happy Award. You might think: "I am not too happy after this jerk stood me up." However, I think your blog makes me happy for I always look forward to reading about what is going on in your life.
Buenos deseos,
Aquiles
I say you arrange another date, then all of us bloggers turn up and jump him and take his drumsticks and stick them... ok maybe not.Your'e too pretty for rubbish like this,find someone who knows it.
That's beyond fucked up! I got stood up on Friday too and was completely destroyed over it. I had to act like it was nothing so that he wouldn't know how invested I was. Does that make it worse??
Anywho...you and I need to team up and get revenge on these men because it seems that we both have really shitty luck.
Fuck, it's guys like that, that give decent guys a bad rap. Melanie, don't put up with that shit and make sure you stand up for yourself. I'd move on and dump that loser. There is a great guy out there that deserves you
i'm sorry girl...guys suck big ass hairy testicle balls. rom coms don't exist in real life and if they did, that relationship would die in less than a month.
btw you look fab in that dress. shopping is the best therapy :)
I'm not sure I like this guy....
I may start to hereby refer to him as a douche.
Melanie, I LOVE these comments! And yes, I agree with them. It's so easy to get sucked back in with someone from the past. I know. I did it for 14 years ... yeah it takes me a while sometimes. But drummer boy is NOT worth your time. There are lots of great guys out there. what about platform guy? or try the dating service. that's basically how Barry and I met and 17 1/2 years later ... I wouldn't trade him for the world.
I wish for you to be at least half as happy as I am ... if you are, you'll be great. You totally deserve to be happy and to be with someone who deserves you.
BTW - I left an award for you on my blog.
Luv ya girlie!
Ugh. How irritating.
What a jerk face! You are too lovely to take his array of shite!
Stop by my blog for a giveaway if you feel like a break from the madness that are boys...
am so sorry girly, you look beautiful in that pic by tha way, and he is a jerk. I can only imagine how frustrating it must have been to get stood up when you were all ready and stuff. Hope things get better for you soon love..
I'll tell you what to do first tell the next guy to do that it is not ok, and if he calls and changes his mind that you already made new plans!
Second next time he calls to reschedule for a Saturday tell you, "Maybe you'll have to call him back." Don't call back till Friday night and then only if you don't have other plans. If he is busy say oh well maybe some other time. Do this till he bends to your schedule!
Yes plenty of fish is the free site. Yes you will meet lots of guys there. But why aren't you meeting the guy from the rail station. You don't have to wait for another party to meet him! Ask him for a drink! Do it! Go1 Do it! Now!
Lecture over ;).
Woa every single one of you THANK YOU for the comments!!! I really thought I was too calm when it happened & for some stupid reason let him off easy. When or If he calls again, I will make sure I let him know that this was pretty messed up for no good reason. I'm not going to let someone back in my life that does shit like this. He used to do crap like this all the time when we dated. His "Friends" are very important to him. Cool but seriously if he can't stick to his plans then he can go take a hike. Thank you everyone for the help here. *MWAH*
I'm so sorry this happened :( I too had a terrible weekend involving my so-called guy friend. I think you should definitely give drummer boy a piece of your mind!
I really think you have to change your perspective on things my dear.
You have so much to offer...why waste time with a guy not willing to make concrete plans. I don't think you should waste your time waiting for his call.
I think you should tell him what you said...are you really concerned with this guy being in your life or not? I'd just say, yeah, it's extremely rude to make plans and cancel hours before. Don't bother calling unless you can follow through with what you say. If he's not even dependable for a Saturday night, what makes you think he'd be reliable in a relationship?
Aw, that sucks! A bit of a douche, no? I mean, I've had this happen, and it always turns out to be guys that aren't worth your time anyway. It's also a matter of respect, and that is no good way to start things off with. He sounds like he needs to grow up! There are better guys out there!
I'm glad you have made a decision - just be strong and stick to it.
>.< At least you've learned early on here that this guy is inconsiderate and self-involved. You have MUCH better things to do. Like not getting jerked around over the phone whether you've got a date or not. If a date with a pretty girl isn't more of a priority to him, I doubt he's looking for a serious relationship. Don't waste your time.
Love Love Love you. So sorry this happened. You don't deserve it.
Ehhh I'm so sorry! I feel you. I feel everything you just wrote and I had pretty much the same exact thing happen to me this week. I say it over and over again and I usually give them another shot. But I am over guys. RAARRR!
i'm so sorry, melanie:( ugh, this guy definitely does NOT deserve u! u're a wonderful girl and u deserve to be cherished:) if he tries to contact u again, i think u should tell him how this situation made you feel. he needs to know that his behavior is unacceptable. argh!
How inconsiderate! He doesn't even think in his pea sized brain how you were maybe looking forward to going out; how being a girl you would have gotten ready. It's unbelievable he cancelled twice in one night. He should have gone over his plans for the weekend before asking you to go out. You need better than this.
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