Thursday, August 19, 2010

Where are they now? (Not a celebrity post. Hehe.)


Over the course of last year I had a problem that kept popping up in one way or another. My exes kept trying to come back somehow. Yeah I guess I have the reversed version of Scott Pilgrim vs. the world. I had to defeat my own. Whether they came back as friends (Yeah right, they wanted *cough* something), or to fool around or to date me again they still veered their ugly heads. I thought I would take a minute to tell you a few of the “Where are they are now” and why even after time a jerk or an asshole will still be a jerk or an asshole and how important it is to KEEP CALM & MOVE ON. There is a certain one in particular that I seem to be more over him these days but yeah I realized he was all lies & shit basically because he’s torturing some other girl now. Let’s begin.


SGD: Sexy Goth Dave is his name. This was a guy who I had a major crush on about 5 years ago. He was exactly as his name says. I was head over heels obsessed with him. But alas it never went anywhere. He jokingly asked me to marry him one day to which I declined because I was too young at 20. Well…..I AM SO HAPPY I SAID NO! Even as a joke. Where is he now? He recently changed his martial status of ”Married” to “In an Open Relationship”. Wtf? Apparently he is still married but he can sleep with who ever he wants & his wife has the same liberties…..Soo happy I didn’t wait to be older for him.

Spanish boy with the gray eyes: He called me the wrong name at a very bad time so I ended the relationship. He didn’t drive because he lost his license due to a DWI, wore the same 2 shirts alternating each date, & lived with his mom. Told me he was going to be a vascular surgeon. Where is he now? Still can’t drive, still lives with his mom, saw a recent photo he still wears 1 of the 2 shirts a 1 ½ years later, & is dating a girl with the wrong name he called me. Is still a teacher, never started school to become that surgeon. Occasionally will message me for what reason I don’t know. He’s still a sap.

Drummer Boy: Remember him? The boy that drove me nuts for about 2 months last year because I couldn’t figure out what he wanted from me. Friend or date? Thought he was still seeing his ex out in Arizona & was just looking for a fling while she was away….Well… Where is he now? Found a girl who will date him while he still is dating that girl in Arizona so while she’s away at school he has someone to play with & then switches back to the Arizona girl when she comes home. How ridiculous is that??

The Mess: My Brown-Eyed Mr. Big. He was my life basically for 3 ½ years. He toyed with my emotions & used me. I hate him so much. I thought he’d come back eventually but he has gone on with his life but….Where is he now? Balding really badly, is still with the girl he cheated on with me, still works in CVS even tho he was supposed to be a famous movie director by now. A friend told me he saw him & he is awful to his girlfriend. He dropped all his friends so he only hangs out with the gf’s friends. Is probably more & more in debt. He went on so will I.


It’s interesting what time will tell. Who knows if CJ is the one but he makes me happy & smile & I’m glad I’m not still with any of these other guys or still waiting around them to I guess come to their senses. I don’t answer any of them if they try to contact me because seriously what’s the point? There is none. Here I go…turn the page….

22 comments:

tess said...

woah this must be quite an empowering list to make, you're a stronger woman for ditching all of these guys!

Unknown said...

WOW u really do keep up with your ex's - i have NO idea about mine .. well one, he's a cop, still is a cop, married and divorced, we still talk here and there - but others - hum i have NO CLUE! .. live and let live, that's the way i roll ..

ps - my BFF has a ROLL of losers she could tell you ALL about - she would feel ur pain!

kisses love for being you!

Sandy said...

Mel I am so proud of you! Barry and I were a little concerned about you last year. But I firmly believe that things happen for a reason. I firmly believe that CJ was that reason. He seems absolutely amazing and you TOTALLY deserve it!
Enjoy your life Melanie. Don't worry about what might happen. Just live life as it comes. Some planning is a good idea, but fretting and worrying is not.
I wish so much for you girl.
I'm so happy to see much of it is coming true. YAY MEL!

Livi said...

I love your blogs!! Very interesting and got me thinking. Great how you can just look back and kinda laugh and its great you found someone who makes you smile, to me that is so important:)

Lindsey Morrison said...

It really makes my look at my own exes and see if I made the right decison.

Jillian said...

Hahaha you crack me up. I can't say that I relate though lol. I have only ever had two boyfriends... I married one!

Diana Mieczan said...

Exacly...Turn the page..love that!!!

Wow..you are really good with knowing about your ex-boyfriends...I dont have a clue whats up with my past boyfriends...Some of them not sound too good...I am so happy you are happy and that you have such a lovely guy:)

Kisses,sweetie and have a lovely day

Claire Kiefer said...

You're so good to put them all firmly in the past. I find it so easy to slip back into old "habits" when I'm single and . . . restless. I've been much better about that over the past year or so, but still--in the age of facebook, etc. it's way too easy to keep tabs on your exes!

just call me jo said...

I was expecting at least one to be in prison. One of my old bfs is in a federal prison for child porn and will be out in 2014. He was one of the really respectable ones. Honest!! So see, my sweet friend, it could be worse. By the way, the ex in prison is married to someone else who is waiting out his felony sentence. whew! Glad it's not me.

noone said...

haha. I love exes for that reason! I had this guy once that pretty much called me stupid and that he was 100 times more intelligent than me and now he's balding and getting a math masters. who knows what you can do with a math masters! He sounds like your "The Mess"!

k said...

oh my gosh, you got out of those lucky!

Teach.Workout.Love said...

ha dont u love that they dont ever go away?!

Little Ms Blogger said...

Isn't it nice to sometimes look back and think "thank God, I'm not with him anymore". Sure, lots of pain, but you're so much happier and in a healthier place.

ag. said...

wow, lucky you got out of those!
'if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain'...sounds like you've put in your time in the rain! all the best for a happy future! :)

Katy Mary said...

Doesn't it make you feel good to know they haven't done anything great with their lives?!

Best Kept Secrets said...

I'm glad I've had no contact with any of my exes.

Silver Strands said...

Hey Melanie ... I feel like I haven't talked to you in forever! Glad to read your post and say a quick "hi".
oxoxox
Denalee

Jennifer Fabulous said...

Hahaha I love this post. I must say reading about your exes was a lot more interesting than reading about celebs. ;)

Sucks that they're d-bags, but at least they are in the past now...

Jess said...

I'm going to see this movie tonight. It is funny thinking about exes and where they end up, right? There is nothing like facebook to keep an eye on the lives of the people in your past haha.

o said...

Melanie, I'm so glad you found someone who truly deserves you:) Oh yes, I still remember posts on drummer boy and the mess and I must say...good riddance! Hehe:) I know you went through a lot of frustrations, anger and pain with these guys, but I'm sure now you're quite relieved that you got out of those and found CJ!

Ren- Lady Of The Arts said...

This is what I find FB useful for- checking out 'where they are now'.

Glad you moved on-

Have a good weekend.

Heather Taylor said...

Ugh, the ex files. Where would we be without Facebook to update us on all of the whereabouts of past mistakes? I'm so happy you've moved past all of these hot messes and are with the guy who makes you the happiest!

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