Why does the drama in my life revolve around concerts? In the past year certain events have happened surrounding concert dates. Last fall I saw Dommin with the Mess, my brown-eyed Mr. Big, & somehow I knew it was the last time we’d go anywhere together. It was. Then come this past April where I was propositioned again to go with the Mess to a similar concert with him & his new girlfriend. Yeah I didn’t go. I’m not a masochist. I thought this door was closed & I was trying my hardest to keep this chapter CLOSED.
At work I usually leave my phone on top of my desk because I don’t have any drawers & I keep it at the one beep to notify me of a phone call or a text. I had texted CJ a few moments prior so when I heard the *BEEP* I thought it was him. It wasn’t him, it was a name I hadn’t seen in months on my phone. Did hell freeze over or something? Never would have thought I would ever get contacted again. Seriously. My ex has even walked away from my mother when she went to buy things in the store he works at & he has the nerve to contact me??? Really???
Oh & the reason he contacted me is that my favorite band, “The Birthday Massacre” is coming to town. The last time they came to town I took my ex for his birthday to see them because he liked them too. But how dare he tell me about them & try to be nice when all he was to me was a monster? Why be nice now? It’s been almost a year since he has contacted me to hang out so why now? Is he going to be at the concert?? He knows I have a boyfriend now so does he think it’s safe to talk to me now? Maybe due to us both being in relationships he thinks we can be friends again?? I don’t think so.
I didn’t answer because I don’t believe he deserves any more kindness from me. I have to be a grown-up now & be smart. I’m done being a fool with that idiot. I have a great boyfriend who I think might really care for me. His actions are bigger than words. I’ve never had a guy more proud of me & happy to be with me. I’m just upset now because I don’t know if the Mess is going to be at the concert? I don’t want CJ & him to meet or ever speak. This is a dilemma. I’m friends with the band too & they don’t come around often. This sucks. I don’t want to talk to the Mess to find out if he's going so I don’t know what to do……I thought this was going to be a simple boring Monday. I was wrong. I got some thinking to do. Just great…
19 comments:
I say let it roll off your back. If you're happy with this new guy it doesn't matter what the old one is doing! But that's just me. It's about your happiness not anyone elses.
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oh lady, i'm sorry! what is it with men? they know when to come back at the wrong time EVERY time! i hope that everything turns out ok....and you're right. i do think cj is the real deal :)
Dont let him ruin what could be an awesome night seeing one of your favourite bands and if you know them you have to go and say hello :)
If he's there just be an adult dont show him any emotion and be all over the new man I'm sure he'll get the message pretty quick! :)
ughh. i'd just ignore it and act like the email never came!
I thinks its the best if you dont answer him...Its so strange that he is getting in touch with you now...Hmmm...wonderful why...:)
Kisses,sweetie
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He might just want to be friends or it might be some selfish trap. The I don't want you but I don't want anyone else having you trap. Knowing your history it IS best you just stay away.
Avoid the mess, but please don't let him ruin your fun. Go to the show, don't contact the mess.
I understand the dilemma though, when I moved out of living situation mid year I never wanted to see the girl again, I avoided a lot of friends parties to avoid her. However unlike you, I didn't have someone to support me in the tough situation like how you have CJ.
Ack! Remember, he wasn't worth it for a reason!! You're better off without him! :)
Ugh. I'd ignore him.
oxoxo
Denalee
hey! so im a new follower and im not sure how deep the mess with The Mess actually is, however DONT DO IT! dont call him to ask if he'll be there! trust me i have my own mess, but i call him Mr. D for douchebag. anyway, dont do it. screw em, he is lookin for excuses to talk to you prob. why else would he call to tell you about the new band in town? Mr. D once called because i left my tweezers in his apartmnt. you think he wanted to give me bk the tweezers? NO he wanted to have a nice romp is what he wanted, and The Mess just wants your attention and is lookin for a way to get it im sure.
Who cares if he's there or not. You're going with your bf whom you're crazy about and that's all that matters.
If they meet, well, they meet. Just introduce them and not make a big deal over it or your bf might think you still harbor feelings for him.
Go. Have fun. Nothing is better than live music.
well shoot.
i've never heard of those bands.
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Yikes, I wonder why he's contacting you again. I think you should still go to the concert with ur bf and have some fun. It is you favorite band after all! If you guys run into each other then perhaps say hello, but I don't think you're obligated to stand there and hangout with the mess:)
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Bathwater has great comment here~ completely agree with him!
Enjoy it!! & be strong dear!
xo
Yikes that's a lot of drama! You should totally go and ignore him if he's there. Good luck!
You shouldn't let him ruin your fun. If you guys both go to the concert, what's the chance of you guys bumping into each other in such a big crowd anyways?
Wow. I'm dumbfounded that after all the crap he's pulled, he thinks he can randomly send you a friendly message. Ummm wtf.
Yeah, screw him. Go to the concert with your sweet bf. Ignore the a-hole. :)
stick to your guts hun, I probably wouldn't have responded either ; )
ugh that sucks! My biggest piece of advice: DO NOT EVER WRITE HIM BACK. EVER.
I have my own version of "The Mess." We've been broken up 4.5 years now, and I've been with M for over 3 years...and my Mess still thinks he can contact me and that it's ok. And it's NOT. Thankfully he's stopped calling/texting, but I still get the occasional email that I stopped responding to. Because if you respond, it only encourages them to KEEP CONTACTING YOU. You're better off letting it lie and taking your chances with running into him at the show.
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