Fighting. Every relationship has it’s fights. One of my biggest problems in relationships in the past is that I used to avoid them. Yup. Seems stupid now. I’d do anything to not get one started even if it meant that I’d have my heart ripped in two right in front of me. I thought maybe if we didn’t fight the relationship might last. I’ve learned my lessons. However CJ & I are a completely different playing field than anything I’ve ever had before. Shit.
Tonight we fought. Not a break-up argument but we fought over the stupidest thing ever. I will make comments from time to time during a TV show or a movie. He hates that I do that. If I speak while the show is on & a character is talking he will have to pause it & then rewind it because I’ve disturbed the show. I guess I’m okay with not knowing EXACTLY every single word spoken on the show or every facial expression. I apologized the first time I did it but then the next show I did it again. He snapped & then sorta had a fight with himself over snapping at me for it. I just can’t sit still for 2 hours straight without saying a word. I’m sorry.
We resolved the fight & I told him I will try not to talk or tell him to pause it if I want to talk. It seems ridiculous to me. I don’t talk through the whole entire show just a moment here or there & that’s a problem. What I’m scared is that because we don’t fight over important things like cheating, being late, sloppiness, or I don’t know real argument stuff that this petty fighting might be worse. Is it better to really fight in a relationship, well cheating would be a deal-breaker so that’s a bad example, but have natural arguments about things so the small stuff doesn’t tear us apart?
It might be stress. I know I’m stressed as well as he & it was a long rough Monday. I won’t see him til Thursday so I guess we can miss each other & then re-group. I didn’t get a lot of sleep last night so maybe I was too fidgety & anxious to sit still for 2 hours. Maybe it was good we had some form of fight tho. I don’t know. This is still new to me so I’m freaking out that the honeymoon is over. He did apologize for being so anal retentive about his shows but I’m upset that we had a quarrel. It seems resolved & I hope it stays that way. New day...new start. I hope...I don't want to lose him.
Do you think fighting is healthy is a relationship? I’d really like to hear your opinions.