So I'm going to shed some light on my lunch on Saturday. I have a Drummer Boy Ex, (NOT THE GUY THAT GAVE ME THE KISS) who I had lunch with also on Saturday during the day. Now, he re-appeared in my life a few months ago to um...hmmm....still not sure. I thought just as friends but I've been a wee bit confused about his intentions for a while...now I just don't have a fucking clue. I'm OVER HIM, completely...but I don't understand what he's doing now? It makes no sense!!! Well for my new followers (Hi!) I'm going to give a simple backstory.
Past:We met fall of 07' one night, made out the whole night and then dated for about 6 months. We've been dating for a month when X-mas came around, and he got mad at me for buying him a x-mas present for a reason I still don't know. After that drama he dumped me once, called me 4 hours later, we got back together. He never seemed like the "On" switch was clicked on in his brain. It wasn't the best relationship, but we continued to date.
Long back-story short, we didn't see each other for about 3 weeks and then one day I went over his house and noticed there were condom foil wrappers on top of his open trash can that was over-flowing, so it was really noticeable. He didn't have that big of room. I stormed out and we didn't talk for about two years.
Present:Okay so on Saturday, he invited me to lunch. He in the confirmation text was like,
Drummer Boy Ex called me at 10:52am to go to lunch. That's really early, I guess he really wanted to see me. He volunteers to drive. He starts talking about a X-mas gift he felt forced to give me. He was like "Do you still have it?" and he keeps going down memory lane... He tells me I look cute in my glasses. He invites me to this concert that I couldn't go to that night. He was kinda like sad when I said I got alot of stuff to do later.
Well he keeps smiling at me, we share some appetizers, and he starts talking about his band. He was like "Oh remember when I used to do this...and that". After eating the check comes and he refuses to let me pay. That sends the Red Flare of "DATE" to me. I was a lil like ahhh crap about it, especially when the bill came to about $50 bucks. I felt bad so I suggested we go play pool so I could pay for something. It was closed due to the weather so we called it a day....
Now this I don't understand. I happen to see his Facebook status later day and he said, "VERY EXCITED FOR MY VISITOR TOMORROW". I'm like huh???? Soo I look at his profile. Apparently his ex-girlfriend is coming to visit him this week and she is all over his page saying "Your Hot!" or "Break me off a piece of that". OH and in between him hanging out with me a few weeks ago he went to visit her....
So if he is still apparently seeing his ex
Why is he taking me out to lunch and wanting to pay?? Why is he asking me to go bowling, ya know date like things??? Why even call me?? Why try so hard to get me some-what in his life?? I don't get it. I don't Understand it. Why ask me if I'm seeing anyone before we started hanging out again?? Why bring me in to see his mother before I left because she told him she missed me???? Why ask if I wanted to chill in his bedroom???? (I declined to that btw).
I don't want to see him again for a long while because I don't know what game he is playing or what ego trip this is or what role he thinks I am or going to be. I don't get it. DO YOU?? Why hang out with me when his ex-gf is visiting him and he's excited to see her. What a mess, and Drummer Boy Ex isn't even the Mess!!
Do you get this? Do you understand this at all? I sure as hell don't......I'd Love your two sense!!