Tuesday, December 22, 2009

The lil Drummer Boy...


Okay gotta say that my lil drummer boy does not deserve the cuteness of this picture to represent him. In this movie/sticom I've been living lately I just got that cliff hanger episode or the scene right before the commercial where you get a call from someone from past seasons. This call was from an ex that will now be called "Drummer Boy"

I haven't mentioned my Drummer boy ex much because there hadn't been much to say. We dated about 2 years ago for about 6 months. I met him one night at a friend's birthday party & we just hit it off. We danced (yes he actually dances), and painted NYC red that night. I'm still shocked that he called me to go on a real date after that night 2 years ago. Times change, feelings change, people change, so he one day stopped calling & did the disappearing act because he wanted to be "alone" for awhile. Whatever. I was over it.

Fast forward to now. Sunday I get a call from Drummer Boy to go to lunch but the snow messed that up. Then today he asked me to dinner. Today we talked for about a half hour on the phone. It was Akward. How do you just start having a phone conversation with someone you hadn't seen or really talked to in about 2 years??? Akwardly. He knew the people I mentioned, knew the job I still had, I knew his friend's jobs & the names he told me...it was like 2 years had never passed...

Honestly I don't know what to do about this lil drummer boy. I was already in the mall with my friend Erin so I didn't want to leave her to go out with him. I told him let's do dinner after Christmas. I have NO IDEA what he wants from me. He said let's chill, be in each other's lives...but he didn't use the "F" word. Ya know, the "Friend" word. I was happy for a while when I was his girlfriend, I liked that he would dance with me...but that was back in 2007...not 2009.

Why is it that when your all psyched to meet someone new...aka Mr. Platform guy...or trying desperately to forget a mess that someone ELSE comes along and turns your head upside down??? I've had days where there is just nothing & then the plates wll start piling up.

I'm probably at least going to go to dinner with Drummer Boy, see what he wants. If he wants a friend, well I gotta see if I'm over him enough to be in his life face-to-face. If not, he'll have to understand. It's hard to let someone back in your life after they just walk out on you without even a goodbye. Maybe he's lonely for the holidays & was just looking for company? Maybe going to the movies with his couple friends & he's just sitting there alone has gotten to him? MAYBE after 2 years he realized he was happy with me for the time we had? Who knows...But I will find out eventually...What a tangled web we weave.

Somehow I am getting into the Christmas spirit this year, putting up the tree, putting the Christmas cards up on the walls, baking the cookies tomorrow, and getting out the black & red santa hat. There is a Christmas commercial that is just so cute it makes me cry everytime I see it because it's just soo unbelievably adorable. I'd thought I'd share it to end this post.

"But we'll all be together for Christmas."

19 comments:

Leah said...

Melanie, Drummer Boy is one of the examples of the things I told you in my last comment that maybe there are reasons why circumstances were against you when you were about to meet Mr Platform. I guess everything has to be polished... I think time has given you the chance to start with a clean slate with Mr Platform. So go and meet Drummer Boy... you have to know.

Dustjacket Attic said...

Hey things are never easy, we really have to think and decide what's best for us. Good Luck honey.

Sorry I've been missing in action, it's been so hectic I've not been able to say hi to everyone.

You have the Best and Merriest Christmas,
love and hugs DJ

Secretia said...

You do have to know. Safeguard your own feelings at the same time. it might just be lust! Which is not all bad.....

Secretia

Barry said...

I'd say go and meet Drummer Boy with an open mind, play it casual and find out what his intentions are. I think they'll be clear soon enough. As you say it's an emotional time of year so there could be all sorts of forces at work here. Just remember HE walked away from YOU two years ago, so play this on your terms.

Hopefully you'll keep Platform Guy in the picture too. :)

AudreyAllure said...

i love that cheerios commercial, it's so sweet :)

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http://audreyallure.blogspot.com
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Jennifer Fabulous said...

It will be interesting to see what he wants. I mean, if he wants to be friends, why now?? Very mysterious. You will have to keep us updated!

Your life has turned into a bit of a soap opera. Lol. When it rains, it pours I guess. But seriously, I'm not surprised. You're beautiful, young, and single. There are probably a lot more guys thinking about you that you don't even know about. (Sorry, I hope that doesn't scare you. I meant in a good way, not a stalkerish way). Haha.

I hope you are having a wonderful week!!

PS. Thank you for your sweet comment on my blog. It comforts me to know I have such good friends like you. :)

Couture Carrie said...

Good luck with your LDB, darling!

Merry Christmas!

xoxox,
CC

Maria Ana said...

The commercial is brilliant:)

Thanks for visiting my blog!

woodlandsblonde said...

They always come back...they always do. In a month, a year, two years...maybe even ten. When you have something that's so good...people can't stay away forever. What's cool in this situation is even though he walked out- you have a choice here. Whether to see him or not to see him. And you can choose whatever you want! Does he really deserve your time after walking out and leaving you in the dust 2 years ago? Probably not. But at the same time...you could meet up with him to see if you still have feelings for him or don't. This meeting could be closure for you or it might re-ignite a spark. Either way...it's your life and it is your choice. He finally gave you one. Gee thanks drummer boy

Aquiles Damiron-Alcantara said...

Love is so complicated sometimes....

Aquiles

Pixel Wild Child said...

I would say don't close any door, you never know, people from the past may come back with a new super entrance in our lifes... and it may be good! I have many examples of this among friends of mine ;O)
Have a super holiday babe, may all your dreams become true with the New Year! ;O)

Bathwater said...

I see people make these calls all the time. It usually involves being bored. Don't get derailed by it. Stay on the platform!

Toothfairy said...

I'm happy that I'm steady for the last 4 years... can't imagine going through all the trouble again! good luck babe!

loves

Constructive Attitude said...

That Cheerios commercial is adorable. lol. and merry christmas!

PorkStar said...

I'm very anti-men. Not just because I am one but because they are all the same.

To me, he just wants the A word, as in ASS. More than 80% of a dude dissapearing and then re-appearing (usually because it is convenient for him) is because, he is lonley, he got dumped, he got rejected or he's not getting any at all.

A friend of mine told me the same thing last night, about this ex crush of hers that dissapeared two years ago and now this past weekend texted her so they can go hang out and etc. Upon further communication she realized he was alone and in need of a very particular kind of friendship. (NSA)

Follow your instincts, women's instincts are usually right, just don't listen to the ovaries aka heart.

Remember, men are all the same.

Alicia (The Red Deer) said...

Love the commercial - hope you have a wonderful Christmas!

J-Diggety said...

Oh girl... Part of me is suspicious of Drummer Boy, only because he didn't have the respect for you to at least tell you he was no longer interested. The other part of me wants it to be what all us girls want it to be, a romantic reunion... I agree with Porkstar, follow your instinct. We have scarily precise instinct, doll...

I LUV that commercial!! Very endearing :)

Merry Christmas!!

Girl in My Own World said...

I say forget drummer boy. I have this thing about never going backwards - adopted from this guy that I once knew. Now I am not saying not to go and see him and such, but I just think that whatever he wants does not really matter. I just feel like certain people don't really change no matter how much time goes by. You have to look at what made them become a distant memory in the first place. It really does say alot. That is just me though. I need to get caught up b/c I am like "Mr Platform?!" Embrace the new girl, but if you need closure on the old do that as well. By the way... if I have never told you I LOVE your blog. You have an excellent voice!!! I know that I don't get to everyone's blog as much as I would like, but I truly do love this one. You remind me of myself in different ways! Well, Merry Christmas Melanie!!! :o)

The Owl's Closet said...

hi, melanie, thank u for sharing this. i'm very sorry to hear about the situation with drummer boy two years ago. sigh, i experience something similar recently. i think it would be nice to meet up with mr. drummer boy but at the same time go in it with no expecations (hard to do, i know) and of course, first and foremost take care of urself:) guard ur heart, because he did walk away from u and perhaps he has changed/perhaps not. hope u still have a wonderful holiday despite ur conundrum:)

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