Monday, April 11, 2011

Why be a Jerk? Seriously...Why?

I'm trying to think what would be the benefit of being a jerk? I'm not going to limit this to just guys either...girls can be jerks too. Why would someone want to belittle someone & break their spirit just so they can...hmmm feel better about themselves? See the person be upset? Get some jolly out of it? Why??

The reason why I ask is I found out that a certain person I used to know is now treating a new girlfriend like gold. He stopped being an asshole to women & has basically become a new girl's lap dog. Now honestly I could care less about the guy who will rename nameless, I'm very happy with CJ & CJ has NOTHING on this other guy from years ago but I'm sitting here going why the hell did so & so have to treat me so badly when I was nicer than pie to him and now he's being an angel to someone new? It's almost like he found me at a weak moment in my life & just tortured me mentally...AND the funny part was this person was pissed that I walked away from him way back when.

Maybe something happened in his life that made him appreciate women? Meh I highly doubt it. The girl he is now dating lives in Manhatten so there has to be a catch there. He's looking for a meal ticket or something. It really makes me mad because I didn't deserve to be treated so horribly. No woman deserves to be used by some jerk & vice versa. Men should not be abused by mentally crippling women. I remember screaming at this guy in the break-up because he thought I was being unreasonable in leaving. What a jerk.

I almost wish I could warn this new girl to watch out for the commercial of him. I wonder if that is what he's doing. Showing her the good guy so he can turn into the monster that he is later when he has her? Who knows...but for some reason it is really pissing me off that he's being nice to someone new. It's actually making another ex of this guy mad too. Why be a terror? Why?

This goes for everything...Why would someone want to be a jerk? If you could give me one good reason for being a jerk I'll buy you a smoothie. Literallly....


b. said...

i have no idea why anyone would want to be a jerk. I expect it was insecurity (knowing you were wayyy too good for him?!) and immaturity, both very very common in young men (and some young women)! maybe he has grown up and worked stuff out, and if so good for him and more people should follow suit!


Krystal said...

He probably hasn't guys like that??

Diana Mieczan said...

I have no idea why someone would want to be a jerk. I think it has to do with low self confidence or something like that. How is the new job going, sweetie? Kisses

Ps: Hope you had a chance to enter in our super cute Ruche GIVEAWAY!

Silver Strands said...

I think some people just thrive on conflict. Ugh!

Little Ms Blogger said...

I don't think the new girl has to worry and unless you want CJ to think otherwise, stay out.

People will sometimes treat others horrible because they can get away with it. Unfortunately, you were nice to him and he kept taking advantage of your good nature.

Put the past in the past and focus on the good in your life.

Bathwater said...

Because when you are nice people continue to come back and take advantage of you... oops that MY sour grapes at the way I feel lately.

adrienzgirl said...

There are no good reasons to belittle others. PERIOD. Even being ugly as retaliation for someone repeatedly being a jerk is not the way to go. Anytime I have ever lashed out I always end up feeling badly afterwards.

Jennifer Fabulous said...

Great post. This is a really interesting topic, Mel.

Generally, I have NO CLUE why some people act like jerks. High school opened my eyes drastically to mean-spirited people. I remember witnessing three varsity football players kicking a girl with down syndrome down a stairwell and laughing and shouting "you deserved that for being so f*cking ugly!" It horrified me and I did wonder WHY people could be so cruel. I just...don't know. Or understand. :(

As for your ex. That guy is the ultimate TOOL. Who knows why he is treating this new girl like a princess. There is an ulterior motive, just be assured of that. His true colors will be exposed eventually. No one can keep up a false personality forever. I wouldn't warn the girl (she will most likely see it as jealousy and he will see it as spiteful), but just be comforted by the fact that their relationship will most likely go down in flames eventually. Sigh.


Jaime @ La vie...J'aime said...

i got smoothie for me lol. im dealing with a jerky guy situation right now- i agree with that picture lol


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