Thursday, June 17, 2010
The "M" word...
What to write about when your world is so all over the place? hmm let's see. But see it’s not just me who is pulling her hair out. In the past 24 hours I’ve heard from 3 friends & relatives that them too have been confronted or touched by that “M” word we all have thought about since lil girls. Marriage. I guess this is the season for it.
For starters my brush with marriage: Cj wants to know after a month if I think there is a potential between us to go to marriage. It’s throwing me for a loop but I will talk to him tomorrow & try to be as honest as possible with him. (Thank you everyone for your advice!) Also I will try to have this conversation not in his car where I felt cornered & NOT after a few drinks. I have to try to tell him this is all new to me. A guy who actually is romantic & cares & who says what’s on his mind is unbelievably new. I need time, just a lil time.
Now onto the others…I find it so cool that 5 people can be confronted by the same thing yet in all different ways…hear me out.
#1: My cousin Elizabeth: I found out today she got engaged! I actually am so happy for her. She’s my second cousin through marriage but I still love her & can’t wait to go to the wedding. She is so lovely & deserves a wonderful man. I’ve never met her fiancée but they’ve known each other 2 years & her family loves him. She has such a wonderful smile & I hope its shining through. I wish her all the best!
#2: My friend Debra: Well her mom is basically doing the whole, “Your 25 & not married what the hell is going on?” Hate to say it like that but its true. I don’t know when 25 became an old or 30 for that matter. She’s basically taking it all at her own pace, she does have a prospective boyfriend & maybe her moving out of her parent’s house will help the relationship along? Maybe? But the pressure of it is there.
#3: My friend Danielle: Her mom is terrified that Dani will marry her boyfriend. See its all the same subject just different ordeals. Her mom doesn’t like the boyfriend & just found out that Danielle & him have been dating for 4 years & are moving up to Albany together. (Very long story for another day). Her mom is barely speaking to her. I’m upset about it but sometimes you can’t help who you fall in love with. It just happens.
Whew! So we got one marriage-crazed boy pushing me, a real engagement, one mom wanting marriage, & then one mom dreading her daughter getting married. You can’t win can you? We all going to try to be there for one another but it’s just funny how all at once it’s happening. Unexpected drama to make you cringe when you hear your phone go off. I think everyone needs to calm down lately about it all. The pressure on all of us is so great how can we even have a reasonable thought? Its very hard to.
But this is the process of growing up. Learning & trying new things & taking leaps & stepping back. It will all work out one day…I know it will.
Have any of you had a brush with marriage lately? As you can see it comes in all shapes & forms. Hehe. =)