When I was younger I loved to put on my mother’s shoes, her make-up, perfume & play in my grandmother’s closet. Becoming an adult was something so far fetched to me that I never thought it would happen. Of course I got older & now I’m in that tricky age where I’m seen as an adult but I still feel like a big teenager still struggling to find my way. However there are moments that make me feel like I’m on the right path, made the right choices, & actually might feel like a grown up.
It might have been cool to get sprinkled with pixie dust & stay young forever but I have a feeling it would get old. This holiday season I’ve done so many things that have made me walk a lil taller, feel less lost, & happy where my life is turning. One being driving up to my grandmother’s with CJ for Thanksgiving. It’s usually my parents & me driving up alone. It’s been that way for 24 years. This year it was different. I got to bring a guy up & drive up myself with him. It might seem so simple to you guys but it’s sort of like a rite of passage to me. I can’t help but smile.
I asked CJ who is 4 years older than me if he still had those, “Wow I feel like an adult now” moments. Oh yes he does. Over the end of last week he got a promotion at his job & he is ever so ecstatic. When I went over to his place to congratulate him he told me that he’s starting to feel like he’s finally where he’s supposed to be & that he feels like he’s becoming a successful adult. I'm SOOO proud of him! =)
Turning 21 was awesome, graduating college ruled, and now I’m faced with a lot more serious things. Mortgage payments, needing an increase in salary so I’m going to HAVE to look for a new job, watching my cholesterol, and making sure my back doesn’t go out again are more things but it feels right. Having a man in my life not an asshole boy is another. Having a dinner date with a couple that isn’t at a pizza place but a restaurant where your napkin is folded over your lap is making me feel like I’m EXACTLY where I’m supposed to be.
Call me strange but I like paying my bills. I enjoy having my credit card to use & getting in my car & driving wherever the wheel takes me. It’s a joy. I think I might have to change my blog description a bit because I might just NOT be lost anymore. I might be found & I might actually be a grown up. That’s fucking awesome. =)
Do you still have those, “I Feel all Grown-Up moments”?
I’d love to hear. =)
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I do feel like an adult when I pay my bills and work, but other times I still feel like a ten year old!
I'm so proud of you! I think there is a time in life to get 2am pizza runs, sleep until 11am daily, and stay in sweats all day long, but that's not where you're supposed to be at 25.I'm glad you recognize this and are motivated to achieve something. A lot of people run away from anything that says "commitment" like credit bills, mortgages, jobs, watching their health, and especially relationships (funny how that one can be the scariest of them all). I love your drive to be a successful adult, Melanie. I have some friends over here who are 28 year old graduate students (I dunno what they did for those 6 years between undergrad and grad school) but they're hanging out with people like me, 20 year olds. And although I'm glad to have a friend to go to pub quizzes with and whatever sometimes I wonder why she's 28 and completely avoiding adulthood. And she's not the only one, it's a whole social movement. So props to you for rising above that!
this is a cool post, sometimes people don't reach this spot - so cool that you are happy where you are!
YAY! What an uplifting post for a Monday morning! w00t!
This was such a delightful post to read. I feel like I am witnessing a new phase in your life and it is awesome. I am so happy for you!
I am in my late thirties and I still have them, though they have grown into more of a feeling of accomplishment than a 'grown up' feeling.
I do. All the time. I'm only 20 and haven't graduated undergrad yet, but I still have the moments.
I connect with my bosses and older people at work about much more things than toys(I work at Toys-R-Us part time as well as at school for work study).
I'm stressing out about what I want to do with my life. I don't know exactly what I want to do, and I know most people don't or shouldn't... but alot of my fellow classmates do know what they want to do and it freaks me out.
I feel myself reading national magazines more (ie - Wall Street Journal, USA Today, etc) and actually watching the news when I wake up.
When I first started doing that, I got scared. But then I realized that I'm becoming a real individual and a member of society and doing those things will help me in the future.
I also ordered business cards about 2 months ago. That made me feel old. Hehe, but I'm ready to be a full fledged adult!
funny, this is what pretty much my whole blog is about.
I too like to pay bills and go grocery shopping.
but I think the moments I feel most grown up is talking with the kids at the day care I work at. Hearing them say I'm old...and realizing that they're right.
I sooo can relate to your post! I've been married for 14 years, turned 40 this year and we're having our first child in February. This year it has hit me a bit more, that I'm finally growing up. haha...but I think it's good to always keep that child like attitude and bliss.
Ehen I first started uni I still didnt feel like I was all grown up but what hit me was when I started my second year at uni, for some strange reason I decided to look up at the building I had been residing myself in for the last year and saw the word 'university' and thought to myself, hey, Im all grown up, Im at university hehe and that only took a little over a year for me to realise, even though I had been going there nearly everyday of the week (:
Isn't it strange how time flies so freaking fast?! Being grown up is so weird. :P
I agree though. Although there are plenty times where I still wish I were a child, I do love being a grown up and having control of my life. One of my favorite grown up things is to sit back and realize I don't have a curfew. I can stay out as late as I want and I won't get in trouble!! Haha! :P
I hope you had a great weekend. xoxo
Depends on the day!! Some days I do and I say 'dang, I make a good grown up!' and some days, I still feel like a little one ;-)
Happy Monday my Dear! xo
All the time. It's fun and a little bit scary all at the same time, but I think one of the best things about being an adult is being able to carve out the life that you want with your own traditions, etc.
Yesterday my husband and I were counting and realized this is our fourth married Christmas. I definitely suddenly felt just a little bit older lol
I'm forty and I still have those moments. I think we just keep growing and growing as people. There will always be new experiences.
I shy away from grown up moments, anything to do with responsibility or life in general.
I recognize in that you Have to get a job now and you have to take care of yourself and invest in your life and it doesn't feel hard like it may have done when you were a kid:)
I know what you mean. I love knowing that I am on my own taking care of myself. My life is my responiblity.
I had my adult moment not long ago, when I had to pay for my braces. Nothing like getting a huge bill that makes you go wow!
I still have those wow moments, especially when it's time to pay cedit card bills. When I was a kid, I didn't even know what those were.
It sounds like you are in a perfect place righ now..I am so happy for you,sweetie...I think I get those moments sometimes...but not too often...:)
Kisses my darling
Happy Tuesday
I'm definitely reaching that stage of being a true adult now, just thinking about graduating college in about a year & a half! I do still feel like I'm in that in between stage.
Gah! I have those "I Feel All Grown-Up Moments" all the time. In October I graduated college and I had one; and every single time I'm given a new assignment, or make a big purchase, I experience them again. I will forever have Peter Pan Syndrome; but sometimes it's fun to feel grown-up!! :)
By the way, congratulations to CJ for his promotion!! :)
when i was a kid i felt being adult is fun. guess what? it's really fun :). you can do whatever you want
I think I'm actually getting younger. I was all about being serious and responsibility when I was a kid. Now I tend not to worry so much.
I used to have those "I'm a grown up" feelings from time to time. Then I had to move back in with my Mom...
I love paying bills too ;) feels good!
Yeah I'm very much at an awkward stage! Can't afford a mortgage yet, but I did get health insurance during the summer and nearly had a panic attack at the fact I was a grown-up who NEEDED to look after things like health insurance!
There are definitely loads of pluses to becoming an adult tho!
I love being grown-up even though it all can be overwhelming at the best of times. Good luck on the journey.
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I remember 2 'I am grown up now' moments...
1. when I took my father out to dinner and paid. He always took me out and it came to be that I was able to take HIM out...and I loved it!
2. Again- with my dad- I knew I was all grown up when I was not embarassed to walk around my college campus with my dad. In fact, I put my arm in his arm and loved that he wanted to visit my college!
thanks for the memories!
Elizabeth
this is such a sweet post. And I agree with you, it's a nice feeling to be self-sufficient and responsible in this great big world. Keep it up honey!
oxo
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