tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107310654054360666.post2963756082242155517..comments2023-10-26T09:15:10.583-04:00Comments on Melanie's Randomness: Changing Who You Are or Just Growing Up? You Decide...Melanie's Randomnesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11331778717585609001noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107310654054360666.post-12237809277919178912011-09-29T07:52:05.650-04:002011-09-29T07:52:05.650-04:00I think the word is adapt. You need to learn to a...I think the word is adapt. You need to learn to adapt to each other to get the most out of a relationship.Bathwaterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18286545216706532921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107310654054360666.post-38641324718172875082011-09-18T00:44:49.471-04:002011-09-18T00:44:49.471-04:00i don't think you are changing yourself at all...i don't think you are changing yourself at all! like you said, you are just doing things to make him feel more comfortable and to be a better girlfriend. that's what relationships are about... give and take.<br /><br />awesome post.jozenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04844510910112264140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107310654054360666.post-72099061269731565662011-09-16T18:46:00.584-04:002011-09-16T18:46:00.584-04:00I don't see why changing is necessarily a bad ...I don't see why changing is necessarily a bad thing. I've always thought that making someone you love happy would, logically, make you happy as well. :-)<br /><br />Fickle Cattle<br />http://ficklecattle.blogspot.com/Fickle Cattlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10281753566416281237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107310654054360666.post-4514715640794383322011-09-16T15:24:56.614-04:002011-09-16T15:24:56.614-04:00I agree with what the other commenters have said. ...I agree with what the other commenters have said. Relationships are about compromise, not compromising your personality, like you said, but being willing to make small adjustments to make life better for you both. I certainly think that in the year The Boy and I have been together we've both made small changes in the way we are in order to fit together better as a couple. Like he's given up space in his bathroom and cupboards so I have storage space, and I've learnt to cook the things he likes, even if it's not something I'm enamoured by. <br />I think that's the only way to make things work. You don't have to give up your life, and it works both ways.Madeleinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03130713787027100406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107310654054360666.post-25193322514798334762011-09-16T12:23:28.575-04:002011-09-16T12:23:28.575-04:00Such an awesome post, Melanie, and a fantastic que...Such an awesome post, Melanie, and a fantastic question. I think I've grown within the relationship and separetly as a person because of the relationship, if that makes sense! I've learned to compromise and I've learned my own likes/dislikes are just as valid as well. <br /><br />Happy weekend to you :) xxAnnemariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12908028059440517359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107310654054360666.post-63815100407296506272011-09-16T07:50:48.658-04:002011-09-16T07:50:48.658-04:00As long as you're changing for your own person...As long as you're changing for your own personal reasons, then I think it's a form of growing up. The minute you start changing for someone else, it's just...changing into someone you're not. :/Cafe Fashionistahttp://cafefashionista.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107310654054360666.post-68077025681145193772011-09-16T07:48:41.463-04:002011-09-16T07:48:41.463-04:00We naturally change and we grow in a relationship....We naturally change and we grow in a relationship. It´s normal. There are compromises, however, it has to be two-way. When only one partner does the changing, tolerating and adjusting, then it´s a relationship akin to a sinking ship. <br /><br />Great post. :)creativefashiongleehttp://creativefashionglee.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107310654054360666.post-55360694088468366452011-09-15T21:13:50.247-04:002011-09-15T21:13:50.247-04:00I think every relationship requires compromise (ch...I think every relationship requires compromise (change) to a certain extent, but you should never change who you are as a person. <br /><br />It's finding the fine line in between that makes a relationship rocks!Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05940369749048830429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4107310654054360666.post-70710629208433631682011-09-15T15:27:12.503-04:002011-09-15T15:27:12.503-04:00Well, I think it's a little of both (ha! What ...Well, I think it's a little of both (ha! What isn't?) I feel like I've for the most part chosen what I've wanted to change and not change. It's always being aware of what you're doing and why.Tiffany Kadanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08887874943048853535noreply@blogger.com